If you are just entering the world of sugaring -either as a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby- you will surely have encountered one of the first big doubts: how to approach that first date? Of course, it's not the same to invite someone from work for a drink than to set up a date in the sugar universe. Here the rules of the game are different, and if you are not clear about them, you can easily screw up.
Don't worry, because that's what we're here for. Here we are going to tell you how you have to handle from the first message until you reach that first quality appointment, the one that makes the difference. Because yes, first impressions count... and a lot!
First step: the message
If you are on a sugar dating site, you will encounter two scenarios: either she sends you a message first, or you have to start it yourself.. And be careful, don't be mysterious and wait for everyone to come to you. Here the one who takes the initiative gets the prize.
When you send your first message, keep it simple but cool. Introduce yourself briefly: name (or nickname), what you do, what you are looking for in a sugar arrangement. You don't have to tell her your whole life, but show confidence. If she is interested in you, she will respond. And if not, don't even bother to insist. There are thousands more.
Now, if she sends you first, If you do, respond politely and also with a brief introduction. Don't throw the card at her right away, go slowly. If the conversation flows and you are both hooked, then you can open up more and tell a little more about yourself, your interests, your lifestyle.
And don't forget this: you're the Sugar Daddy, you lead the interaction.. Don't wait for her to take the lead and ask you what you are looking for in the arrangement. Ask her yourself. Show her that you know what you are doing.
Switch from chat to text messaging
If after a few messages things are going well, it's time to leave the dating site and move on to something more direct: start chatting via WhatsApp or by whatever means they use. This already shows that you have a more real interest and that you want to take the relationship to the next level.
That's right, don't get too hung up writing all day long. Time is precious, and both you and she knows it. If she starts to demand too much attention from you, let her know in an elegant, non-bullying way. A good sugar arrangement is not based on being glued to the cell phone 24/7.
At this stage, if everything goes well, you can ask her for some photos to get to know her better. But please, don't go to the grass. If you get too explicit, you may scare her away. Respect above all.
The objective is clear: meet in person
All chatting has to lead to one point: meeting face to face. But don't say it just like that. He will make hints, Ask her when she will be in your area or when she will be free from school, work, whatever. Tell her that you are looking forward to meeting her, that you are interested in chatting with her and that you would like to get together.
Also tell her your available hours. If she is a serious Sugar Baby, she will get excited about the idea of a date and will try to coordinate. If she dodges the issue or doesn't respond, don't waste your time. Next.
Does she tell you she's on a trip or complicated? All good. Ask her when she's coming back and make it clear that you're open to coordinating when she can. But don't chase.
The first date: where everything is defined
Attention, new Sugar Daddies: don't go into the first date thinking there's going to be sex. If you go in with that mentality, you're in for a shock. The key is something else: generate good vibes, show your style, and see if there is real chemistry..
Take her to a nice place, without exaggerating. A good meal, a comfortable place, nice conversation. It doesn't have to be the most expensive restaurant in Puerto Madero, but it doesn't have to be a sleazy bar either.
During the date, treat her well, make her feel special. Let her see the kind of life you could offer her if the arrangement goes through. Don't promise what you can't deliver, But be generous, confident, attentive. The goal is that she leaves thinking: “hey, this guy is worth it”.
He asks you to take an Uber to get him home? Perfect. It's a basic and even expected gesture. But if he starts asking for things out of place, If you're looking for a Sugar Baby, like cash or expensive gifts on the first date, take note. That's not a Sugar Baby you want to get serious with.
A real, classy Sugar Baby doesn't wait. no type of “allowance” (allowance) on the first outing. This is discussed later, when there is confidence and things are clearer.
Some extra tips that don't fail
- Be on time. Arriving late gives a bad image.
- Dress well. You don't have to wear a suit, but show her that you have style.
- Pay the bill without hesitation. It's not a Tinder exit, this is a sugar arrangement.
- Listen. Show real interest in what he says, don't talk about yourself.
- Be honest. Don't overdo it and don't sell smoke. The best thing you can do is to be yourself, but your best version.
In a nutshell
Setting up a good date in the sugar world is not as easy as it seems. You have to know how to move, be clear about what you are looking for and respect certain rules. From the first message to the face-to-face meeting, it all adds up to build an arrangement that works and is really worthwhile..
It's not just about money or gifts, it's about chemistry, mutual respect, clarity in what each other wants. If you do things right from the start, you can have an incredible sugar experience. If you screw up at the beginning... well, learn and start again. But don't improvise.
Because in this world, he who knows how to play, always has the advantage.
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